The wedding team is an important component in ensuring that the big day runs smoothly. Members should know the couple well and the key players – the best man, bridesmaids and ushers – should be chosen carefully.
Bride and Groom
Traditionally the bride and her mother took responsibility for organising the wedding because traditionally the bride’s parents would have paid for the wedding. It is now increasingly likely that the bride and groom will fund part of the wedding and make the majority of the decisions.
A wedding is an important rite of passage for all involved. Ultimately it is the bride and groom’s day, but parents should be consulted, and their opinions respected, especially if they are contributing to or financing the wedding.
- Discussing and deciding upon the choice of ceremony (religious/civil). Choosing music, hymns and readings.
- Deciding how many people will be invited, confronting any fragile family situations from the very start.
- Deciding upon the style of the day.
- Finding a location for the ceremony.
- Looking for suitable reception venues, and planning how the day will be structured. Food, drink and entertainment choices will follow.
- Thinking about the logistics of the day, such as transport and timings.
- Drawing up a wedding list.
- Discussing and choosing members of the wedding team – the best man, ushers and bridesmaids – and making sure both are happy with the choices.
- Communicating with each other to ensure that both remain fully informed of arrangements.
- Buying each other a wedding ring.