No longer the exclusive realm of oddballs and the downright disturbed, internet dating gives the user the ability to pick and choose without having to meet a multitude of no- hopers. Choosing your date in much the same way as you pick dishes from a menu lacks the finesse and subtlety of traditional courtship, but it opens you up to a world of possibility unavailable through conventional channels.
Honesty is always the best policy: being creative with photographs or profiles will lead to eventual downfall when you meet in the flesh. Use the best photograph you have: if the picture isn’t up to scratch, potential lovers won’t even bother reading the profile. It’s a competitive world in cyberspace, and to succeed you have to sell yourself. Steer clear of clichés and innuendo, aim for wit without sarcasm, and avoid excessive modesty as this will invariably backfire.
Keep initial approaches brief and light-hearted.
Officially it’s rude to ignore overtures, so a brief response is always appropriate. If you reach a stalemate with someone, tell them rather than ignoring them. Not everyone will abide by the rules of the game, though, so if you are ignored by someone you’ve taken an interest in, give up graciously after two messages are left unanswered. If you wish to turn an online interest into reality, one of you must take the leap of faith and suggest meeting in the flesh. Women should not assume this is the man’s responsibility, but issues of personal safety when meeting a stranger should be considered.

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