The organiser must budget carefully and make sure that everyone who is invited can afford what's planned. Costs should be shared equally among all the guests.

If possible, it is a nice gesture for the guests to pay for the bride/groom's share. This need not include travel or accommodation costs, but should stretch to cover the majority of expenses of the actual 'do'.

The budget of every guest should be considered; an expensive weekend away may mean that some guests have to decline.

The cost of travel, accommodation, food, entertainment and contributions to presents, outfits or games must be taken into account.

A breakdown of costs can be emailed to guests promptly so that everyone is aware of expenses early on. They can then confirm their attendance.

Online bank transfers are a sensible way for guests to pay, ensuring that the organiser is not out of pocket or paying for people he/she doesn't know.

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