This is a high-risk activity that often, though not always, involves lunging at an unwitting target…
Make an assessment of the situation. If you suspect there is potential for romance, show your intentions with some  flirtation. This gives your potential paramour the chance to also make their feelings clear.

Ensure that your intentions are appropriate to the circumstances as you risk embarrassment for you both, particularly if the object of your desire is taken by surprise. Consider it carefully when all your faculties are intact; never attempt it if you have overindulged.

Above all, ensure that you are true to yourself. Setting your stall out as a Don Juan or dominatrix is doomed to fail if you are usually more restrained.

Remember, too, that a little decorum will ensure that you look back on your attempts with a wry smile rather than a blush and a groan of dismay.

If you are rebuffed, a regretful smile and a gracious withdrawal will leave the one that got away feeling flattered, and you with your dignity intact.

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