Blind dates are usually the result of the machinations of an eager matchmaker. They should be approached with caution and realism - the hit rate is often low because a third party is trying to direct cupid's arrow.

It is wise to gather some advance information. Utilise social networking sites such as Facebook, and quiz the matchmaker - this will provide useful background material and plenty of conversation for the date.

Be safe. If the person you are meeting is a complete stranger and not recommended by a friend, then let a someone (friend, family member etc) know where you are going.

You must establish contact with your date beforehand to make arrangements - email is a convenient (and suitably anonymous) method of communication.

Drinks are a more flexible option than dinner; the evening can be as short or as long as desired.

You must also establish a way of recognising each other: for example, it could be decided that both of you will be carrying or reading a copy of the same newspaper.

If the match proves to be disastrous, excuses shouldn't be made too soon (you should stick around for two drinks). Send an email within a few days, letting the other party down gently.

If the evening goes with a bang, exchange numbers, send a text message the following day (or within two days) and plan more dates.

See also After the Date

See also Taking it Further

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