Chivalry: the courteous behaviour of a man towards a woman. But what do 'modern' women want?

When is chivalry out-dated and patronising, and when is it appropriate and well-mannered?

It is all about the natural gesture, striking a balance between treating a woman like a lady, but respecting her independence. A chivalrous man will offer his seat to a woman on a train if she is elderly or pregnant, stand when she first enters a room and open a door for her. He will also help with her coat and offer to pay for dinner.

These are good manners that should come instinctively, rather than contrived gestures that feel out-dated. Above all, they will make women feel at ease.

The Persona of the Chivalrous Man...

• He has an air of sociability and hospitality.
• He is unrushed, calm and always has time.
• He is in control of life, and never stressed.
• He is naturally charming to everyone he meets.
• He rarely loses his temper, and never in public.
• He can seemingly handle any situation that is thrown at him.
• He is patient, and left unruffled by life's daily irritations.
• He is modest, yet confident, and cultivates an air of ease.

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