Weddings are special occasions and guests should feel privileged that they have been invited. The wishes of the bride and groom should be respected - it is, after all, their day. There may be a policy on children or seemingly inconvenient timings, but guests must remember that the day is the culmination of months of planning, and should be flexible and fit in accordingly.

Accommodation, if required, should be booked well in advance; the host will usually recommend somewhere local or have secured a block-booking. Remember to check whether there is any transport laid on, or if you need to book a taxi.

Presents are either bought in advance from the couple's list, or you may prefer to take something along on the day. There is usually an area at the reception for guests to deposit presents - make sure your gift is clearly labelled.

Guests should be appropriately dressed. Dress codes are not included on a wedding invitation unless guests are required to adhere to an uncustomary code (such as black tie). It is, however, traditional for men to wear morning dress, or a suit with a shirt and tie. Women should look dressy in a suit or dress - appropriate for the season and the weather - and may also wear a hat. Head-to-toe outfits in white or cream should never be worn and all black, unless cleverly accessorised, may look troublingly sombre.

Wedding guests should familiarise themselves with the order of the day. Be punctual for the ceremony and help the ushers by telling them if you are a guest of the bride or groom (or both), friend or family. Be warned: weddings are usually a long day, with unusual meal times and many celebratory drinks and toasts. Guests should pace themselves to ensure that they last the course.

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