Stiff Upper Lip
The British Empire was built on the deadpan, the clenched jaw,
the occasional polite smile. Adversity was something to be
confronted with stoicism and sang-froid - there are numerous
apocryphal tales of the phlegmatic reaction of Britons to
disaster.
The imperturbable refusal to react histrionically to tragedy and
disaster came into its own at times of national crisis - the
terrible losses of the Great War, the devastation of the Blitz. But
the sun has set on the British Empire, and it would seem that in
doing so it has melted the famously stereotypical 'stiff upper
lip'.
Nowadays, it is thought to be psychologically more healthy to admit
to vulnerability and freely acknowledge emotion. This change in
public sensibility was nowhere more apparent than on the occasion
of the death of Princess Diana, where grief was openly expressed on
the streets of London, and the public freely questioned the Royal
Family's understated reactions.
But it would be a mistake to assume the pendulum has swung
completely in the opposite direction. The stiff upper lip is deeply
ingrained in the British psyche, and even at times of national
mourning there are many voices raised in protest, arguing that
aggrandising feelings of regret for the passing of a public figure
absolutely devalues the currency of true grief.
For all the hyped hysteria of reality tv, the crocodile tears of
sportsmen, the public wallowing in emotions, the underlying
sang-froid of the British still runs deep. The restrained
and dignified reaction of the public to the funeral processions of
servicemen from Afghanistan in the small Wiltshire town of Wootton
Bassett is probably a much more accurate reflection of the British
character than the lachrymose scenes at the funeral of Princess
Diana.
And when the cards are really down - for instance after the tragedy
of the July 7th terrorist bombing in London - the British show an
implacable tendency to keep calm and carry on.
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