Reticence
There was a time when it was considered entirely inappropriate
for money, illness or sex to be discussed in polite society.
Indeed, any assertion of individuality or tendencies towards
self-expression were seen as 'unfortunate' and were ruthlessly
suppressed by a rigorous and disciplined educational system.
Today, personal revelations are the very stuff of celebrity and
reality tv culture, and self-expression is seen as a fundamental
human right. Undoubtedly, some of this new freedom is a natural
reaction against a rigid and formal society, although many
traditionalists feel that the cult of self-expression has swung too
far.
Nevertheless, reticence is still an undeniable British quality. It
is manifest in a firm sense of individual privacy, and a feeling
that it is intrusive to ask personal questions. While in many
countries, detailed interrogation about family, children,
educational qualifications and personal wealth is the norm, many
Britons will recoil from such honest scrutiny. If they are curious
about someone else, they are prone to ask oblique questions or to
try and establish credentials by roundabout means.
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