While nearly all funerals feature flowers, many families choose to have a just a small selection of arrangements donated by close relations only.
Death announcements often specify 'no flowers' or 'family flowers only'. These wishes should be respected.
The death announcement will often request a charitable donation be given, rather than flowers. The undertakers will usually co-ordinate the collection of donations.
If you cannot attend the funeral, and there are not requests made about flowers, then it is a thoughtful gesture to send some.
- It is usual for the family to contribute towards one arrangement to be placed on the coffin. Simple choices, such as flat spray arrangements, are a classic option. Wreaths are generally reserved for cenotaph use.
- Other arrangements, uusally from other family members, may be on display in the ceremony venue, or placed on the grave.
- Cards accompanying flowers should be kept brief and heartfelt. They are a message to the deceased and should be addressed to reflect this.
- Traditionally funeral flowers are white or cream, with pastels sometimes also used. Some families choose blooms in a favourite colour of the deceased.
- Many undertakers will offer a catalogue of funeral flowers from which arrangements can be chosen.
- Alternatively, options can be discussed with a florist who will usually have some helpful photographs and plenty of ideas.
- Flowers should be delivered on the day to ensure that they are fresh and look their best. The florist should liaise with the undertakers to organise practical arrangements.
- It is usual for crematorium flowers to be donated to a local hospital after the funeral. The undertakers will usually take care of this.