Forgetting Names

Men chatting at the Royal Ascot

Remembering the names of people you have been introduced to can be a haphazard business.

Some names are unusual, absurdly inappropriate, comic or pretentious, and will therefore easily stick in your mind.

You may want to remind yourself of the name of someone to whom you have just been introduced by using his or her name once or twice, but try not to overdo it.  If someone gets your name wrong, correct them as soon as possible clearly and firmly but politely, so there is no mistake. It can be very embarrassing for both parties if such errors persist

If necessary, try visualising something memorable that rhymes with the name or put names into your smartphone or jot them down in the loo with a reminder such as ‘blue shirt’. Above all, don't become so obsessed with remembering the name that you fail to participate in the conversation. Do not be offended when people cannot get your name into their head, just repeat it patiently..

If you do forget, don't panic -  try to stimulate your memory by asking them how long ago you last saw them or where it was. If all else fails, the best thing is to admit it and blame yourself - a charming and self-deprecating "I'm so sorry, I'm terrible at remembering names, I always do this . . ." should suffice.

 

 

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